If you google ghosting, you’re immediately privy to articles explaining what it is, how to overcome it, the psychology behind it, and much more. It’s a global phenomenon. It also happens to be the one thing I appear to be particularly good at.
When did people start ghosting each other instead of calling each other ‘boo’?
I find myself wishing for an old school love where I’m swept off my feet but I can barely get myself to text people back after the first date. No one is immune to the effects of time and ghosts.
Someone I knew once asked me if I had a ‘ghosting complex’, he then proceeded to give me a psych eval at 4am to which I responded with pure, unabashed laughter. No fault of his own, I just laugh at everything.
On second thought, maybe I do need a psych eval.
I’m getting off track. He asked whether I had ever been ghosted. Yes, once. Does it matter, though, if I also ghosted that person? It was a cycle of emotions and ghosting. I didn’t intend to ghost this individual, but I did. You know, for power play purposes.
Okay, I definitely need a psych eval.
Why was I avoiding communication when it had been made simple and easy, and was available on a variety of platforms? Why do we accept ghosting enough to give it its own spot in our legacy- urban dictionary?
Agreed, some things are better left unsaid, but here I was making that my only reality. There was nothing I was saying.
I’m considering the possibility of it being a part of my personality. ‘Take it or leave it’ types. I might ghost, but I always reply to a double text. I’m like a friendly ghost. Call me Casper.
Or maybe, just maybe, ghosting is a kind of communication. You’re sometimes indicating that you’d like the other individual to put in more effort. You’re also letting them know when you’re not interested. Okay, these are two very different circumstances, I definitely need to stop ghosting.
Take this as written proof that I will, at the very least, attempt to do the same.
And if I’ve ever ghosted you, I’m sorry. If its any consolation, I ghost everyone. Family and friends alike. I don’t discriminate.
Until next time.
